This morning I was thinking of something that I had experienced in the past which in turn set me on a journey to do a little exploring on the topic. This is just a small insight and any comments that you have feel free to post.
A helpful tool for those struggling with self/relationships/ boundary issues. To far to the left, or to far to the right always causes conflict. Notice, the problem/solution starts with a thought that comes from an emotion. To validate the emotion is healthy,. However, one must not just validate the emotion but decide if the thought that comes with the emotion has any cause for validation. In this case: Fear is a real emotion. The question is, does safety depend on whether you get something from others or whether you give something to others? Or, is the correct thought the one of love? (I get from you or give to you because I love you). You decide. (A lesson in putting an end to stinking thinking). Please comment, I would love to hear your thoughts. PS, I love this transliteration from the Message, on love posted at the end.
Excerpt from: http://www.angriesout.com/grown17.htm
The Narcissistic-Co-dependency Continuum
FEAR: I am not safe unless I get. LOVE: I am safe FEAR: I am not safe unless I give. Loving, conscious relationship
Shadow Parts which create Suffering
Through Too little Caring for Others
Shadow Parts which create Suffering
Through Too much Caring for Others
Narcissism ------------- Reciprocal Loving ---------- Co-dependency
1 John 4:18
The Message (MSG)
To Love, to Be Loved
17-18 God is love. When we take up permanent residence in a life of love, we live in God and God lives in us. This way, love has the run of the house, becomes at home and mature in us, so that we’re free of worry on Judgment Day—our standing in the world is identical with Christ’s. There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life—fear of death, fear of judgment—is one not yet fully formed in love.
